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There are so many wonderful things about blogging. I read some great blogs. I read a lot of blogs of parents who of course talk about their children and their milestones. Because why wouldn’t they? I sure as shit do. But but but…. I can’t help but sometimes, measure up what Milo is doing to these other kids I read about.
Your kid is walking? Mine just speed crawls.
Your kid can count to three? Mine doesn’t even know where his fingers are.
Your kid can do a one handed cart-wheel? Well fuck you. Go join the Olympics or something and be a crazy stage-sports parent OK!
I know there are things that MJ does that other kids his age don’t do. BUT, sometimes it’s hard to remember that when you read about all these awesome things these kiddos are up to.
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I freaking hearrrrr that mama. It IS really hard not to compare. We all want so much for our kids. But of course I always find myself doing it.
.-= Emmie Bee´s last blog ..So, let’s take a poll. =-.
it’s basically impossible NOT to compare! i must admit i’ve been overwhelmed before with a panicky feeling because OMG POPPY WILL NOT SHOW ME WHERE HER BELLY IS EVEN THOUGH *THAT* KID IS YOUNGER THAN HER AND CAN DO IT AAAHHHHH!!!
i wish i were kidding.
and then i spend an entire day trying to harass her into doing whatever trick i think she should and you know what? i feel silly about that. because my kid is completely awesome, and is learning her own pace, and you know what else? NO ONE will be able to tell whose child did what first when these kids turn three! seriously. probably even by the time they are two, it all comes out in the wash.
it is hard though, no to get caught up in the progress checkpoints. because each new bit of advancement that our baby puts forth is an example of their development and personal achievement, and of course we all want to share & celebrate each milestone that comes our way…
it’s honestly really refreshing & comforting to hear another blogging mama admit these feelings. because not only do i frequently feel the same way, but also? i hold milo (and hudson, and bresho, and ella!!) and so many other babes so very dear to my heart, and there is ZERO sense of competition; only best wishes & a yearning that we all lived close enough for playdates & happy hour!!!
seriously lady – milo is absolutely incredible, as are you. thanks for this honest post, and here’s to both of us (and any others reading!) to take the pressure off ourselves & just enjoy our kids being the wonderful lil’ beauties that they already are! (-:
cheers!
.-= emily bilbrey´s last blog ..wordless wednesday, number twenty-two. =-.
I JUST posted about this on FB yesterday. It is impossible not to compare my child to other children and all it does is make me crazy. My child is 15 months old. He doesn’t say “Mama” but will quack like a duck. Useful, huh? No. (but cute as hell!)
This comparing is probably part of the reason I’m still on anti-anxiety meds.
.-= Miranda´s last blog ..I have only been speechless a handful of times in my life =-.
Milo is great at what he does, and oter kids are great at what they do. All kids learn at different speeds. Ryan is in pre school and I see some kids do stuff he can’t but he does thing others can’t. ( a kid in his class has no training wheels but Ryan still does, but Ryan is the only kid in his class that can write his name) You will compare your childs skills with others for years to come, probably forever. Just be proud of Milo for what he does know, your child looks up to you for praise. Being supportive is the best thing a parent can do. I know I sound lame, but I swear it’s true.
Every parent does this, I think it’s in our DNA. Milo is amazing and every kid develops at their own pace.
For Bronwyn, she JUST WON’T ROLLOVER. Every single baby on our “birth board” (mama’s all due the same month as I was) have had their babes rollover on a regular basis by now. B, couldn’t care less. Now she can sit up (tripod) on her own, and even held herself up once for 10 seconds, but what do I focus on, that she won’t rollover. Also I just know her speech will probably be mega delayed. We’re probably confusing the heck out of her now with two languages. So she’s much quieter than most babies her age.
I bet Milo will stand up one day and run across the room. After that he’ll be unstoppable.
.-= Eileen´s last blog ..Under Construction =-.
I guess I should have added that obviously I am super proud of Milo every single day. He constantly amazed me. And I never feel like he’s failing at anything. Sometimes its just like a “wow” moment when you see another kid doing something awesome that Milo hasn’t learned yet. But, I’m sure people come to my blog & see the same sometimes when they read things like, MJ has put himself to sleep since 3.5 months, sleeps through the night, has a million teeth, and is saying new words all the time. I think it’s just a silent little thing a lot of parents do. I was just voicing it.
I was literally doing this about 5 minutes ago and started freaking out that at 8 months Noah isn’t crawling. I just try to remind myself of all of the things he IS doing and remind myself that he is developing at his own perfect pace!
.-= Ashley B.´s last blog ..Eight Months Into Mommyhood…. =-.
Dude, I think everyone does this. As I was reading this I was thinking about my insecurities b/c my almost 1 year old bub isn’t very mobile and I turned around to watch her scootch herself across the living room. Now I’m off to baby proof….
.-= babyinbrooklyn´s last blog ..Foooooooooooood =-.
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